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53 What random acts of kindness could you do in the next year? (04/16/2023)

I will be involved in the Asian American Association club when I continue college. A large portion of members are international students brand new to the US so I want to help them socialize, make friends, and explore the North Caliornia region. I get to make friends from around the world and its also an act of kindness. Not a random one though.
I don't know if I would change anything to increase my random acts of kindness. I hold the door open if someone is coming behind me. If somebody needs help with luggage or moving, I don't mind giving a hand. Other than that, I don't have much ideas. When I visit a friend, I can offer to help out in tidying their room or making dinner for that night. I could start asking about their life and be a good listener who understands them.
I can check on my coworkers to see how they are doing. That's it.
Kindness is not a priority for me right now. I am currently focused on self-improvement and setting myself up as a man who is a capable leader full of confidence and charisma. As naïve as it sounds, it's what I desire.


54 How do you get along with people who’ve different views than you? (04/16/2023)

I don’t speak my opposing opinion unless it’s needed.
Usually, I only ask questions, listen, and discuss things we commonly agree on. I become a different person based on who I hang out with and I can change from being a Good Samaritan to a fucked up person letting out my darkest desires. If the person I am speaking with is angry, I also share my anger and my desire to break every object in my household and hurt others. If they are happy, I speak about things I love and cherish such as my friends and family. If they are depressed, I speak about my struggles with hopelessness and not wanting to die but not wanting to live either. Depending on who I am talking with and how they are feeling, my questions and my stories focus on different aspects of myself and them to highlight our similarity.
Even with fucked up people like racists, rapists, serial killers, criminals, pedophiles. While I don't agree with what they are doing, I still try to restrain myself and understand why they do the things they do. A part of me believes that nobody is born a bad person. Rather, the environment they grew up in molded them into who they are now. By trying to understand the worst mankind has to offer, we can take steps to understand and to ensure no more of them are created.
As for my first sentence I wrote. I only speak out my opposing opinion if I feel somebody is being hurt physically or mentally. If somebody is being made fun of everyone, I will interfere and let them know that it's fucked up. Other than that, I usually prefer to either mind my own business or just listen.
As embarrassing as it is, I admit that I used to be very judgmental back then. When I saw my cousin again after almost 8 years, I told him that he was a bad person because he smoked. I grew up being taught that people who smoked, drank, did drugs, didn't marry or have kids as they got older, people of different races, or LGBTQ were horrible people. That was the culture I was raised in and I didn't question it back then. After all, my parents only spoke the truth right? Compared to all of them, I was the horrible person. I was super judgmental, I lied a lot, my ego was too big to accept my own mistakes and faults, and I loved watching others suffer and lose. After all, one less competitor means more resources for me.
It's been 10 years since and I have been on the other side of being judged by others: by my parents, peers, and relatives. I was called nicknames more than my actual name: gatha(donkey), raches(demon), and latta(mute). I was constantly lectured and criticized on why I was a bad student, bad son, and a bad human being. Rarely was I asked how I felt and why I was the way I was until I met Ela Didi. That's why I hold restraint and listen even if the other person is good or fucked up. It's not because I agree with them, but because I want to understand where they are coming from.
Lastly, I also believe everyone is making the best choices at every given moment.
Everyone values different things differently. Stalin killed millions of people and we all look at him as one of the biggest history villains. A part of me understands that to Stalin, it was the best choice at that time given the circumstances. Maybe he did it because he believed doing so would push forward his belief of Communism unto the world. Maybe he wanted to showcase his strength to the rest of the world. Regardless of what the reason was, he most likely had one, and he did it rationally according to his own viewpoint at that time.